Body Confidence

I’ve been reading & watching a few things lately about body confidence and how to “learn to love yourself” I personally feel this pressure for women to look perfect is put on women by other women.

You can go to any shop, supermarket or even go online and within seconds you’ll see a headline such as “Perfect bikini body in 10mins!!” or “Has she lost too much weight?!” or “Learn to love those curves in 10 easy steps” Straight away you’re looking at yourself in a new light! Do I need to lose weight? Can I love these curves? Am I too thin? I’ve not seen a single article that says “Curves are ok as are no curves. It’s ok to have boobs but it’s ok not to. It’s also ok to be short, tall, black, white, mixed race, long hair, short hair, no hair etc.”  It’s also always women who sit & pull apart what someone is wearing. I’ve never sat & discussed with a man whether coral shoes work with a mustard dress!! My point here is if we are promoting body confidence, women need to be nicer to each other and all body types need to be seen as sexy and accepted.

I myself am I slightly curvier woman so naturally I’m a little hesitant sometimes in what I wear. I’ve had numerous conversations a friend of mine however who is much thinner than myself (She is a dancer so has a rather slender frame) who says it’s always curves that are promoted and taught to be loved. I’d never thought about this before till she opened my eyes. Lets just say women are women. They come in all shapes, sizes & races and all are beautiful. Each body type is attractive. And you know what helps, compliments. If you think someone looks good then tell them. If could be the only positive thing they hear that day.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this?

Body Confidence

Forever Alone?

Does anyone else ever worry they might genuinely be forever alone? I mean in the marriage & kids sense.

I’m 25 now and growing up I always said “I don’t want kids or marriage. I’ll never settle”. But just recently it’s hit me that’s all I’ve ever wanted. I’ve built up this barrier and now I’m genuinely scared I’ll never have those things. I’ve never even had a boyfriend!! That’s very embarrassing for me. I’ve slept with one guy when I was 16 and it was awful so I said never again until I’m in love. 9years on and I’m still waiting.

It’s a total catch 22 though. I won’t go out to meet people or put myself out there because I haven’t the confidence but to get the confidence I have to put myself out there. See my problem? 

I’m now starting to see my school friends get married, get houses and most have kids and I’m waiting for my first boyfriend. My thought though is who is going to want someone so inexperienced? I’m 25 with the love life of a 15year old. That’s not attractive surely?!

I just feel now that this is it. I’m destined to be a mad cat lady who in years to come, kids on the street will run from screaming “there’s that crazy old lady!” 

Does anyone have any advice, kind words or a similar experience to help me?

Xx

Forever Alone?

Saturday nights 

I guess at 25 I should be out with friends. Drinking, dancing & possibly having a couple of one night stands. But I’m sat here at almost 9pm, comfy jumper and pj pants, sipping on a pint of water watching countless DVDs. I guess a part of me is happy. I’m not uncomfortable in what I’m wearing and I’m warm but a part of me yearns to be out. Truth is, I couldn’t if I wanted to.

I had a group of friends I used to go out drinking with. Spontaneous nights out was what we was best at but something happened in my life (I’ll cover in a later post no doubt) that made me cut out everyone. Now I have very few friends and the ones I have are married or in long term relationships so spontaneity isn’t a thing anymore. Everyone has plans nowadays.

I’d love to start a new life elsewhere and have those crazy nights but how do I do that? Do I settle for this comfy life or do I try to live? 

Saturday nights